The most difficult battles are given to the bravest soldiers! Always Remember!

Often heard ans said," Strong people face the most difficulties in life".

Its simple, problems come to those only who can handle it.They may be disappointed initially but will never give up and continue their struggle.So, if you are facing difficult circumstances, don't worry, you will come out of them as you are strong and God wants you to be stronger.If an atheist, i will say experience and hardships will make you a stronger person.

You might be at times broken inside, but you will again bring parts of you back for another attempt.You don't loose so easily.You come back with stonger force, will power, grit, determination and experience to face life situations.These situations will shape you and become your source os strength.Strong ones never run away from the situation,they believe in making way through it.And beyond doubt, despite stumbling , they do emerge out victorious.They have more to grasp and learn and a much higher level to climb.They no  longer are ordinary ones, they in this process of hardship become extraordinary and that is what they are destined for.Success could be a late phenomenon in their life, but they are sure to get it.People in difficult circumstances get an oppurtunity to think beyond what they earlier thought was the end.It expands your mind,gives one the oppurtunity to think about new options and solutions-altogether a different way of thinking.All this becomes the source of your strength and build your self-esteem,an essential attribute to success.After darkness, there is always light.Neither good days last forever nor bad days.Nothing is constant in life. Change is the only law of nature.So, always remember in trying times, "This too shall pass".Life is no doubt tough to many more than others, but always remember , you are tougher.You are always bigger than your problems.

"Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about how to dance in the rain" -Vivian Green

It's ok to feel depressed at times, it's perfectly ok to cry and have meltdowns,it's quite normal.And all must allow themselves to express, feel or vent out.You need time and space to heal.And beleive me , after this process, you will emerge stronger, grow as a person and ready for any challenge in life.Always remember, God doesn't give difficulties to weak.If you facing trying times, remember God wants you to be stronger, rather consider you strong enough to deal with everything and ultimately, it will be your world.You are going to achieve great heights in life and emerge not as a stronger and successful person but a far better human being than you were earlier.

So smile for your hardships, God considers you capable and strong.All the best!

Love  

Preeti Rawat

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Relationship Series Part-5 Emotional Intimacy more important than Physical Intimacy ...Both are required to run a successful relationship

Emotional intimacy and physical intimacy play a key role in any successful relationship.

A healthy and mature love relationship cannot exist without emotional intimacy.A relationship cannot survive without emotional intimacy because it carries the relationship in the toughest times of life.It is very important for any couple to feel safe, secure and be able to trust each other completely.One can be his or her's true self before the partner with complete trust and feel comfortable and all that can happen only if you have an emotional connect.No one can experience emotional intimacy without having 100% transparency and openness and that requires trust.And always remember in any relationship,trust is more important than love too.Active communication and sharing with each other all the feelings be it joy or sadness is crucial for emotional intensity.

Physical intimacy is also very important.It keeps alive the spark in the relationship.Physical intimacy doesn't necessarily require emotional intimacy.But if you have physical intimacy with the person you are emotionally attached, it enhances the enjoyment and satisfaction too is very high.Sex alone does not take us closer to a person.We all as humans yearn for physical intimacy, the urge to merge is there naturally.But loving a person, being emotionally connected to him or her makes physical intimacy a much better experience.

In reality, you cannot have good physical intimacy without emotional intimacy, and you cannot experience emotional intimacy without the physical component as well.At different times in life and in different situations, one of the partners can feel the need of one type of intimacy more than the other.

Initially physical intimacy plays a key role in any relationship.Later as couples age,they start favouring emotional intimacy more.You must have both types of intimacy in order to have a harmonious and happy long-term relationship or marriage.Together they will hold you together during tough times. Without these both components , your relationship doesn't only loses charm but can crumble as well.

The secret- With high emotional intensity , you will have a great sex life.

Physical intimacy is expression of love.When a relation lacks sexual chemistry and physical affection, then also it is likely to fail.It also depends on where a person keeps physical intimacy  in a person's value hierarchy.Oxytocin and dopamine realeased during sex, creates good bonding between the partner and bring them closer.

Physical intimacy is very good for health.It reduces stress, lowers blood pressure and anxiety.

Trust is built over time but it also develops due to release of oxytocin.

If you are close in bedroom, you feel closer outside too.Couples who have regular sex become more affectionate towards each other in other aspects of life too.It strengthens the bond between couples.It boosts your immune system too.Being physically intimate means not only having intercourse with one another but also sharing personal moments of closeness.This expectation brings excitement to the relationship and makes couples feel more connected.Sex gives you better sleep , relieves you of any sort of pains like headaches and reduces your chances of having heart problems.It makes you look and feel younger.The estrogen and testosterone released during sex gives your body a young and healthy glow.Physical intimacy gives any couple higher relationship satisfaction.Even a touch gives you a feeling of being cared about.Physical intimacy is much more than being sexually active.

Emotionally connected and intimate couples understand each other at a deeper level. Deep intimacy requires a higher degree of transparency and openness.You are emotionally intimate with your partner if you can share the most embarrassing moments of your life,your worst failures, feelings of inadequacy and their loftiest dreams and visions for life.You appreciate each other better and  are thankful for having your partner in your life.In a nutshell, you can share everything freely without any fear or hesitation.And when you are not hesitant, this feature also reflects in sexual intimacy and other aspects of physical intimacy.So, one night stands might not help you much for health purpose but relationships which are emotionally intimate have a higher happiness disposition, better health, feelings of security and trust gives scope for growing in career also.We all seek emotional bond,we crave for closeness, trust and comfort.The feeling of being accepted by your partner the way you are,loved by your partner, the feeling that someone cares about you, to have someone to share all good moments and joys and also sorrows together and to feel there is someone with you even in toughest times in your life -is great.Add to this emotional bonding ,the extra topping of not just good sex life but also physical intimacy , you will experience heaven on earth.

Emotional intimacy is a formula for enhanced emotional well-being and physical health as well.

Always remember, physical intimacy might not lead to emotional one but if you are emotionally intimate, your physical intimacy will be much better.

LOVE

Preeti Rawat

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Relationship series Part 4 -Resentment: A silent Relationship Killer

Resentment is a silent relationship-killer.

What exactly is resentment?

Generally, resentment is harbouring of anger or suppressed ill-will against someone who has wronged you or hurt you in any manner and you couldn't do anything about it.It often occurs in couples when one or both partners feel offended  or hurt by the other and think their actions are were deliberate. The biggest problem in handling resentment in any relationship is the it goes undetected for a long period of time, even several years sometimes.So, resentment's  recognition in a relationship  is a difficult thing for many.Resentment usually begins small, where one partner is annoyed by something minor -- such as a mannerism or tone but  never tell his or her partner what was bothering him or her. 

Here's how you recognize that the silent killer has creeped into your relationship.

Firstly, if anyone of you feel that your partner is not listening to you, rather ignoring you, or even if you feel that if you point to any of your partner's needs, then also your relationship is progressing in the wrong direction.Slowly and steadily , these feelings will lead to rise of anger and feelings of hurt inside you.

Secondly, if you find that whenever you start communicating, you end up actually only finding faulta in each other.Petty issues like daily or routine habits of your spouse become irritants to you, that is a sign that the resentment has started and if unchecked will show its ugly colours.

Thirdly, rather than focussing on the main topic, you start quarelling or having a heated argument on the same issue again and again.

Then fourthly, instead of talking on the main issue or being vocal about your problem, you start avoiding each other.This is pretty dangerous as this way you are not at all moving in any direction to solve the problem,You are not just postponing the problem , rather giving power to resentment to grow stronger.

Fifthly, with resentment, your partner's image in your eyes dwindles, attraction and spark gets lost and then whether you want it or not , there is loss of physical contact and intimacy, which is really detrimental to the interest of any relationship.

Sixthly, unable to think of any feasible solution, you become pessimmistic about the possible solution and no longer take any action.Again, detrimental to the interest of any reltionship or marriage.

Seventhly,over a long period of time, couples get tired of conflicts and never-ending fights and resort to withdrawal.You don't want to make yourselves available for the relationships any longer, just to feel more in harmony.

Resentment is like a cancer with malignancy and eventually makes it impossible for the relationship to survive.It is toxic and it won't go away on it's own.You have to initially arrest its growth and the blossom your relationship when things go fine.

Let's come to how to handle it.

Firstly,the most important is to acknowledge the fact that there is some issue, serious one, that needs to be resolved.This is the very first step in the right direction.

Secondly,try to find out the real reasons for your feeling of resentment before blaming your partner.

Thirdly,it could be due to other factors as well like workplace dissatisfaction.So, firstly you need to introspect. You need to empathize with your partner.Put yourself in your partner’s shoes and think how your negative emotions might have affected you if you were in their place. Empathize with them if they are feeling guilty.

Fourthly,never bring past conflicts and fights in the present.This would deviate you from the possibblity of having any amicable settlement to your problem.

Fifthly, resentment is mostly the result of misunderstandings , so if you get to know that you have been wrongly resenting your partner, do not hesitate to apologize.

Sixthly,don't have unrealistic expectations from your partner.Discuss your expectations with your partners on a constant basis and try to fulfil them.Importantly, you should not pile up unrelatistic expectations which can't be met and lead to further resentment.

Seventhly, don't dishearten your partner by not fulfilling commitments.Disappointment over little things can add up to resentment over a period of time and you will even not be able to spot any problem also.That makes it dangerous for any relationship.

Eighthly, even if you are left with only complaints about your partner and feel you have nothing else to discuss. Remember, even complaints can be phrased in an unoffending manner.

Ninthly, patience is required inany marriage or relationship.Once you have addressed the main issue, you should give sufficient time for your partner to change.Good things take time.So, have patience.Every problem once addressed and focussed on for solution has an end.Wait, till it happens.

Tenthly, to address the issue,

be direct in your conversation and make clear-cut requests to your partner.Your partner must know what exactly you want, don't send vague signals.

Eleventhly, always exchange feelings for each other.Don't forget to appreciate each other for their small gestures, their loving and caring nature, helping financially, for being there with you in difficult times.There can be endless things you can be thankful for.So always focus on the positives.It helps to re-connect better with your partner.It's not an easy job especially if you are upset with your partner, but to improve your relationship and ignite the charm of your relationship, it's essential.And, I bet once you start doing this , very soon you will see a complete transformation in your partner's attitude for the better.Your feelings of gratitude will enhance your self-esteem too.

Twelfthly,try to make each other a priority.And this only possible if you have an honest, transparent relationship with trust and understanding.

Finally, do not let your past define your present relationships.Live in the now and even in heated arguments , never bring in past of your partner.It would kill any possibilty of reconciliation and might lead to ending of the relationship,

Remember, resentment is one of the most toxic of all emotions to an intimate relationship.It's like a poison which slowly erodes the charm of your lovely relation.

You don't have to worry.Always remember, you are always bigger than your problem.It might be a difficult and low phase in your relationship.BUT, IT TOO SHALL PASS.

LOVE

Preeti Rawat

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Relationship series Part 3- Communication in a relationship

Communication in any relationship is not about talking to each other and conversing.Its much more than that.Actually communication is all about connecting with your partner.And to connect , you may use physical, verbal or written skills.In a nutshell,communication is about fulfilment of your partner's needs.Therefore, it is essential to understand what your partners wants from your relationship with your spouse and also communicating what you want.This makes it mandatory for partners to realise and appreciate their needs.Most important is to understand your partner's core values.In most cases, couples are unaware of their own core values , forget about partners.So self-realization is essential to be in a healthy and fulfilling relationship. 

How to improve communication with your partner?

Firstly, try to understand every person is a combination of primarily three primary representation systems(PRS).A person can be primarily Visual, Auditory or Kinesthetic.So, firstly you need to find the PRS or combinationof PRS of your spouse.Observe what your spouse prefers, what he or she loves to do, what makes your partner happy, focus and observe the vocabulary they use etc. All this will definitely help you find your partner's preferences.If your partner is largely auditory, its very important to use verbal method and communicate and say "I love you".I bet , this will do wonders.You just need to find this much time to say you love her or him amidst your hectic work schedules.It will do wonders for your relationship.I bet.But if your partner is Kinesthetic,reinforce your love with touch and do it quite often.Just saying you love your spouse will not work here.And if your partner responses more to watching and visuals.Don't forget to watch a movie together on the weekend ,share your joy with gifting attractive things.Visuals like that.If you constantly work on this aspect, I am sure, your relationship will groom and communication will never be a problem.

Secondly,when you are with your partner communicating, it should be the only task you have in your hand.Be there 100%.Pay full attention and your partner should feel that you are truely with him or her.

Thirdly, always be honest and 100% transparent in your relations.Trying to hide something is biggest cause of conflicts in relationships.Trust your partner and express your true self and give oppurtunity to your spouse too.

Fourthly, one of the most imprtant communication skills is listening.Deep, positive and harmonious relations can only be developed by listening to each other.Here I am talking about active listening.And it is quite different from just listening.It involves showing your attention completely and involving interest in non-verbal communication.You should forget about your own thoughts and pay attention to the thought and what all is going on in your spouses mind.You have to be of couse tolerant and completely non-judgemental.

Fifthly, I warn , don't be judgemental.Simple logic for this is , if you judge someone, you question the persons's ego and when you want to change anyone, you will meet stiff resistance.For example, if a person is late back home , don't without knowing interpret or try to interpret, accept the fact that the person is late and there must be a genuine reason for the person being late despite the fact that a date or dinner was promised.Don't evaluate and judge the person as uncaring, it could be anything. May be circumstances.

Sixthly, don't assume what your partners wants.Ask specifically.Simply, make a clear request.It is far better than vague communication.

Seventhly. your communication should be active and nurturing.Always be enthusuastic and genuine interest in what  your partner is talking about.

Lastly, avoid being hurtful in communication especially if your spouse is more auditory.It's destructive.

Lastly, always keep your thoughts positive as unhealthy verbal and non- verbal communication all starts in your mind through negative thoughts that you process constantly.They later transform into beliefs and words.

Try these tips, and I am sure you will benefit.The entire relationship series will provide you a complete tool- box to improve and enhance your relationships.

Love

Preeti Rawat

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Drop the EGO- Ego alone can destroy any relationship - PART 2 Relationship series

Nothing will kill a relationship (even the best of relationships) more quickly than ego. 

Ego pushes people away from you.It stops your own development.It kills your happiness, makes you critical and irrational.Last, but not the least,it blocks love from coming into your life.

Think about any heated argument or fight you had last time.One interesting fact about the fight is that , you find yourself being attacked and then you start to defend yourself.Actually it's not you, it's your ego defending itself.

If you want to truly love someone and be loved too, the first and foremost thing that you must do is to separate your ego from yourself.We all are ego-driven to a certain extent-some more, some less- but yes we are.To maintain a healthy relationship , our constant endeavour should be to try to separate our ego from ourselves. 

How to try to reduce the ego?
Firstly,remember you don't always have to be right.It's basically our ego which creates a sense of being right in us.Otherwize we feel defeated.Always remember,your relationship is always more important than being right.

Secondly, we need to introspect and find for ourselves as to how tolerant we are.We generally get offended so easily.It's stupid for various reasons.Most importantly, no body can hurt you without your permission.

Thirdly,don't compare your relationship with anyone elses.Every couple has their own set of goals,everyone's context is different, so are the circumstances.All individuals are different.So do not compare your life and relations with others.Simply, because you don't know about their journey.

Fourthly, try to remain contended with what you have.This will help you in avoiding unncessary competition which is also a result of ego only.Always try to be better than yourself and not your spouse or your or your spouse's relatives and friends.

Fifthly,try to find yourself.In the value-hierarchy, find your core values. This will help you in identifying your true goals and priorities.Finding one's true -self helps one remain focussed and away from needless egoistic attitude and competition.

Sixthly, people with big or super-inflated egos generally have low self worth and low self esteem.Due to this they always try to prove their point right, even if they know they are wrong. They are highly insecure internally and on the outer side, try to prove their ego right.

 Seventhly,if you let your ego go unchecked, it can cause tremendous turmoil in your life — particularly with your partner or spouse. Negative feelings, such as anger, resentment, fear and jealousy are all products of the ego.So, always keep a check on your growing insecurities and negative feelings.You might be getting trapped in the super-inflated ego game which our own mind plays with us.

Sixthly,Mahatma Gandhi said, " The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong".One of the most powerful tools to let go off our ego and to make your life easier is to practice forgivness.it's not only important to forgive those who hurted us in the past but equally important to forgive ourselves too.This will open the door for positivity and stop all negative thouhts and feelings from rusting your mind.

Seventhly, practice gratitude, It will transform you as a person.

People with big or super-inflated egos generally have low self worth and low self esteem.Due to this they always try to prove their point right, even if they know they are wrong. They are highly insecure internally and on the outer side, try to prove their ego right.

If you let your ego go unchecked, it can cause tremendous turmoil in your life — particularly with your partner or spouse. Negative feelings, such as anger, resentment, fear and jealousy are all products of the ego.So, always keep a check on your growing insecurities and negative feelings.You might be getting trapped in the super-inflated ego game which our own mind plays with us.

But the good news is that it's not always your mind that can play trick with you, you can also play tricks with your mind.

Although, letting go off the ego might look easy in theory, in practice, it is not that easy, I agree.But I promise, dropping the ego is worth for leading a blissful life and relations.

Be grateful for the people you are related to and you will find the task much easier.All the best!

Love

Preeti Ki Paathshala

Basic understanding of human behaviour before you plunge into any relationship-Part 1

You all must have heard the famous quote " Marriages are made in heaven, but they are celebrated on earth". I am here not to argue if marriages are made in heaven or not actually.The second part states "they are celebrated on earth". My point here is if you want to celebrate it throughtout your life, you have to work towards grooming it not once a year or on Valentines or on any special occasions but each and every moment.
Learning the tools of successful relationships in any relationship workshop too cant help you if you don't try to understand the basics of human behaviour. I am today starting a series on " Basic Understanding of Human Behaviour before you plunge into any relationships.Today is Part -1 of the series which we will be discussing.
Generally, when a boy or a girl enter any relationship , their initial courtship period goes superb, they find and consider themselves the luckiest and the best couple full of love towards each other.There are a lot of factors responsible for this feeling.Today, we will discuss just three reasons.
 Firstly, its quite natural, afterall you are in love.
Secondly,the initial physical attraction and intimacy plays a key role.That's quite natural again.
Thirdly, both the girl and boy are trying to give their best to this particular relationship, the romantic one.
Yes , we try to give our best to this relationship at this point.And we forget that we are forgetting or may be unaware or have not given it a thought that this much focus exclusively to the romantic relationship is not going to last forever.Very soon, everyone realises that they need to give time to their other family members, friends and close ones.Realize, this was a phase , like any other phase in life which has its ups and downs.Problem arises when after initial few months or years, a girl begins to feel insecure and often ignored by her soulmate. The same thing happens with a boy also but I am referring to a girl only because after marriage it is largely a girl who moves to the house of the boy.She gets into a new family and no doubt, has to make more adjustments than the boy and his family.Sometimes , the bride adapts well, sometimes she finds it difficult to adjust and then starts a phase the couple has not ever dreamt about- endless arguments and fights too at times.Whether a boy or a girl, you need to understand one simple aspect of being human and that is you are a social animal.At the same time, every person is related to different persons in a different way.For example , before a man became your husband,for a very long period of time, his identity in terms of relationship was limited to being a grandson, son, may be an elder or younger brother to his sister or brother,being a nephew to his uncles and aunts,a brother-in-law or  fire-brigade to close friends.The list is longer than mentioned.So, when you entered his life, you were given extra attention.You deserve all the attention . But what goes wrong at times is the fact that you started looking your man in isolation.Same with him too.But problem in marital or other relationship begin to emerge more when the woman now wants her husband only.She forgets you don't get any person in isolation.He has many important relationships to pay attention to.So, your demand to possess him or try to take him or rather snatch him from others , so that he is completely yours is not just unjustified, but very foolish one.If you are trying to do so, I tell you, you are spoiling your relationship.For love can't be snatched and to make an attempt to do so only shows your lack of understanding or your immaturity or may be at times some sort of blackmailing which will kill all the love and trust in your relationship.You might move into a separate apartment , taking him away from his close ones , but thats not very kind of you, rather unkind.He will never love you the same.Any persons relation to his or her parents comes first.So my simple advice to all youngsters is relations take time to groom.Wait.Do not try to become number one in any person's life forcibly.Only parents love you unconditionally. No other relation can give you that love. Don't try to snatch husbands , do not try to take them away from their family.Understand this simple fact ,he was brought up with his brothers ,sisters and cousins.Every relation has a special place.
Competing in this manner is immaturity and selfishness too.Be it a boy or a girl, respect your spouses Grandparents, Parents, Uncles ,Aunts and all elders; and love all those younger to your spouse.Understand relationships groom over aperiod of time.Don't expect it to happen all of a sudden.
Do not be a home breaker, be a home maker.What you do today will come back to you tomorrow.Respect ,give all your love and care to your grandparents and parents and I guarantee you, their blessing will take your marital relation to a higher level.You will not just be a loving couple anymore, you will be a blessed one.And I guess, thats even better.
You go empty headed from this world ,but yes take as many blessings as you can.Remember ,elders will not be with you physically always, nobody will be, but  their blessings will remain with you and give you everything that you ask for.Simply because,if you want something from God, ask through your parents, their prayers work for you more.

Understand relationships and stay happily married forever.
Best
Preeti Rawat

EffectiveTips on how to study for long hours?

Hi students!

There are many examinations that require long term preparation and perseverance on your part.The coverage of syllabus and its revision requires you to devote long hours of study.Sometimes, it's more than 12 hours per day, may be even more. So, here are few tips on how to study for long hours and emerge successful. There will be further blogs on the same topic.So friends, stay tuned.

I am sure these tips help you in long term preparation.All the Best!!!

Have a fixed routine

Always follow the routine and to break the monotony take a day out to refresh.

Make sure, if you start at 5;30 in the morning, you start everyday at the same time.

Go to bed ,at the same time everyday.

The Journey of a thousand Miles Begin with a Single step

Don't aim at sitting for studying for 12-15 long hours on the very first day.Try to initially study for 5-6 hours and then, gradually and consistently increase the study hours.Starting with 5-6 hours in the first week , the next week you can go for 7-8 hours and then gradually increase it further according to your pace and potential.

Initially you might find it difficult, do not feel demoralized.It takes time, effort and perseverance to change old habits and form new ones. Be determined. 

Take breaks in between study hours

Take small breaks in between your studies.This will help you achieve your goals and also ease you down throughout the day.

Firstly try to make a habit of sitting for 3 hours at a stretch , as mostly exams are of this duration only.It helps in exam also, as for you, it will be like just another day.So, take a daily sitting of 3 hours at a stretch.

Other than that, you can take a 5 Minute break after every one hour.

Do not forget to do some stretching exercise in those gaps.

It's good to work hard, but far 

better to study smart.

Devote adequate time for practicing previous year or model question papers.This will help you know the level of your preparation and also boost confidence.

Try to solve previous year question papers at the time of the day when your exam is scheduled.Suppose your main exam is from 9 AM to 12 PM , try to use that time only for practicing previous year or model papers. It will acclimatize your body to the routine of exam.

Never sleep at 9 AM , if your final exam is scheduled at that time of the day.

Planning is very crucial.Do not forget to devote  time for revisions, which are crucial to success.

Where to Study?

Fix a suitable place to study.Try to study there as much as possible. You will get acclimatized to that place  and hence it would help to set up your mood and there will be very less time wasting.

Research has shown that studying in daylight makes you less drowsy, more alert in the afternoon, thereby increasing your productivity or adding more hours to your schedule. If the room/place where you study receives sunlight, it’s good place to study.
It will be better if your study place is well ventilated. Fresh air uplifts your mood and help in concentrating better. 

Using Your Mobile phones

Try not to use your mobile phone at least for 2 hours after waking up.

It is advisable to switch off your mobile before sleeping or to keep it in meeting mode.

Before bed time also, stop using stimulaters like mobiles.Instead read a good book or listen to some good meditation music.

Many students simultaneously use whats app, Facebook and other social media while studying.It is a complete waste of time.So, it is advisable to demarcate exclusive time to using social media.

Calls in between study-time also lead to ineffective study.And add to it, the conversations between you and your friends regarding syllabus completion,your friend's study plan, important questions that might come in the exams ,etc. are in reality factors that diminish your performance.They are not just major time wasters, but at the same time lead to unnecessary anxiety and worry due to comparisons and negatively effect your confidence and health.

Make an effective time-table and stick to it.

Take up difficult topics early in the day or at a time that your energy level and alertness is highest.Early morning is the most suitable time, but those who are in the habit of studying late night or in afternoon might find that time more suitable for difficult topics.Feel free to take up the difficult material at a time that works best for you.

In the evening, after already having studied for long hours, you are obviously low on your energy levels, so it is better to use that time for easier topics.

Schedule socializing, making calls, talking to friends etc. in the late evenings.

Remain Hydrated

Keep yourself aptly hydrated.If you drink less water, try increasing your fluid intake as dehydration leads to confusion and less focus , although you may not be able to realize it initially.

Eating Habits

Eat small meals.

Avoid overeating.Overeating may lead to drowsiness and make you sleepy and interfere with learning process.A light stomach is always good for an active mind.

Avoid oily and junk food.Try to eat home made food.It is no doubt hygienic and you can avoid many illnesses simply by sticking to simple home made food.

Try to include food with low Glycemic index like low-fat diary products, salads, soups and most importantly fruits in your diet.These foods release glucose slowly into the blood stream, thereby maintaining energy level for a longer period.At the same time high GI foods like pizza, burger, sugary beverages etc.  raise the energy level very fast but crash equally fast.Therefore for long duration studies not suitable as lead to fatigue and drowsiness.

Avoid processed food and drinks.Fresh juices are most suitable.

Exercise

Sitting for long hours especially during and before exams is very demanding. Always do some kind of physical activity for 15-20 minutes.You can a take a walk ,do yoga, some cardio-vascular exercise or some meditation.Do keep in mind that not all exercise are suitable for everyone.Before trying a new exercise regime, keep your strength, stamina and overall health into consideration. Physical exercise boosts learning ability.It has good effect on our Long-Term Memory.It improves concentration, helps you remain focused, increases alertness and also combats anxiety and low moods which are quite common among students during long term preparation.

Research has shown that studying in daylight makes you less drowsy, more alert in the afternoon, thereby increasing your productivity or adding more hours to your schedule. If the room where you study receives sunlight, it’s good place to study.

Sleeping Habits

It is advisable to sleep for 6-8 hours according to your need.Keep your phone away while you sleep or switch it off or put it in meeting mode.

Before sleeping, don't opt for any stimulating activity like watching television, playing games on mobiles, etc. It's better to relax 15 minutes before sleeping time. You can also try Pranayama especially "Anuvilom-Vilom" before sleeping lying laying on the bed.

Try napping It is a great stress management technique.It refreshes your mind and help you to study with concentration for long hours.Keep in mind, napping every day at the same time is more useful as it helps to stabilize circadian rhythm.You can take a small nap immediately after lunch.Remember, not to take more than one nap.It's far better to take sound sleep of 6-8 hour duration and regular nap might interfere with sound sleeps at night time.

Avoid socializing too much

Avoid the temptation to attend every social function, be it a marriage of your relative or friend, or a birthday party, especially if you are preparing for a competitive exam be it civil services or any other government recruitment competitive exams, Engineering entrance or your semester college exams.Always remember, these social functions at crucial junctures of your career won't add any incremental value to your study and career goals.You might feel lonely at times, but success demands some sacrifice.It's not that you never hang out.Do plan a day out and enjoy whole day with friends or relatives.This will give a much needed break from studies.

N Yes , a final tip- Avoid getting into love affairs.Handling relationships could be difficult especially when you have no time for the person.Well, your partners could be your support systems as well, but do remember, what's most important amidst preparation of a government job examination or any other major life exam where you have to stretch to even 15 hours a day.After studying 15 hours effectively, all you need is a great sleep.If you can give time to your partner , then only plunge into it.AND PLEASE SAY A BIG NO TO NON-SERIOUS AFFAIRS.

These tips sound simple but I ensure,once you follow them, you will experience amazing shift in your preparation.You will gain in confidence and also enjoy your more disciplined life.

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