Nothing will kill a relationship (even the best of relationships) more quickly than ego.
Ego pushes people away from you.It stops your own development.It kills your happiness, makes you critical and irrational.Last, but not the least,it blocks love from coming into your life.
Think about any heated argument or fight you had last time.One interesting fact about the fight is that , you find yourself being attacked and then you start to defend yourself.Actually it's not you, it's your ego defending itself.
Ego pushes people away from you.It stops your own development.It kills your happiness, makes you critical and irrational.Last, but not the least,it blocks love from coming into your life.
Think about any heated argument or fight you had last time.One interesting fact about the fight is that , you find yourself being attacked and then you start to defend yourself.Actually it's not you, it's your ego defending itself.
If you want to truly love someone and be loved too, the first and foremost thing that you must do is to separate your ego from yourself.We all are ego-driven to a certain extent-some more, some less- but yes we are.To maintain a healthy relationship , our constant endeavour should be to try to separate our ego from ourselves.
How to try to reduce the ego?
Firstly,remember you don't always have to be right.It's basically our ego which creates a sense of being right in us.Otherwize we feel defeated.Always remember,your relationship is always more important than being right.
Secondly, we need to introspect and find for ourselves as to how tolerant we are.We generally get offended so easily.It's stupid for various reasons.Most importantly, no body can hurt you without your permission.
Thirdly,don't compare your relationship with anyone elses.Every couple has their own set of goals,everyone's context is different, so are the circumstances.All individuals are different.So do not compare your life and relations with others.Simply, because you don't know about their journey.
Fourthly, try to remain contended with what you have.This will help you in avoiding unncessary competition which is also a result of ego only.Always try to be better than yourself and not your spouse or your or your spouse's relatives and friends.
Fifthly,try to find yourself.In the value-hierarchy, find your core values. This will help you in identifying your true goals and priorities.Finding one's true -self helps one remain focussed and away from needless egoistic attitude and competition.
People with big or super-inflated egos generally have low self worth and low self esteem.Due to this they always try to prove their point right, even if they know they are wrong. They are highly insecure internally and on the outer side, try to prove their ego right.
If you let your ego go unchecked, it can cause tremendous turmoil in your life — particularly with your partner or spouse. Negative feelings, such as anger, resentment, fear and jealousy are all products of the ego.So, always keep a check on your growing insecurities and negative feelings.You might be getting trapped in the super-inflated ego game which our own mind plays with us.
How to try to reduce the ego?
Firstly,remember you don't always have to be right.It's basically our ego which creates a sense of being right in us.Otherwize we feel defeated.Always remember,your relationship is always more important than being right.
Secondly, we need to introspect and find for ourselves as to how tolerant we are.We generally get offended so easily.It's stupid for various reasons.Most importantly, no body can hurt you without your permission.
Thirdly,don't compare your relationship with anyone elses.Every couple has their own set of goals,everyone's context is different, so are the circumstances.All individuals are different.So do not compare your life and relations with others.Simply, because you don't know about their journey.
Fourthly, try to remain contended with what you have.This will help you in avoiding unncessary competition which is also a result of ego only.Always try to be better than yourself and not your spouse or your or your spouse's relatives and friends.
Fifthly,try to find yourself.In the value-hierarchy, find your core values. This will help you in identifying your true goals and priorities.Finding one's true -self helps one remain focussed and away from needless egoistic attitude and competition.
Sixthly, people with big or super-inflated egos generally have low self worth and low self esteem.Due to this they always try to prove their point right, even if they know they are wrong. They are highly insecure internally and on the outer side, try to prove their ego right.
Seventhly,if you let your ego go unchecked, it can cause tremendous turmoil in your life — particularly with your partner or spouse. Negative feelings, such as anger, resentment, fear and jealousy are all products of the ego.So, always keep a check on your growing insecurities and negative feelings.You might be getting trapped in the super-inflated ego game which our own mind plays with us.
Sixthly,Mahatma Gandhi said, " The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong".One of the most powerful tools to let go off our ego and to make your life easier is to practice forgivness.it's not only important to forgive those who hurted us in the past but equally important to forgive ourselves too.This will open the door for positivity and stop all negative thouhts and feelings from rusting your mind.
Seventhly, practice gratitude, It will transform you as a person.
If you let your ego go unchecked, it can cause tremendous turmoil in your life — particularly with your partner or spouse. Negative feelings, such as anger, resentment, fear and jealousy are all products of the ego.So, always keep a check on your growing insecurities and negative feelings.You might be getting trapped in the super-inflated ego game which our own mind plays with us.
But the good news is that it's not always your mind that can play trick with you, you can also play tricks with your mind.
Although, letting go off the ego might look easy in theory, in practice, it is not that easy, I agree.But I promise, dropping the ego is worth for leading a blissful life and relations.
Be grateful for the people you are related to and you will find the task much easier.All the best!
Love
Preeti Ki Paathshala
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