You all must have heard the famous quote " Marriages are made in heaven, but they are celebrated on earth". I am here not to argue if marriages are made in heaven or not actually.The second part states "they are celebrated on earth". My point here is if you want to celebrate it throughtout your life, you have to work towards grooming it not once a year or on Valentines or on any special occasions but each and every moment.
Learning the tools of successful relationships in any relationship workshop too cant help you if you don't try to understand the basics of human behaviour. I am today starting a series on " Basic Understanding of Human Behaviour before you plunge into any relationships.Today is Part -1 of the series which we will be discussing.
Generally, when a boy or a girl enter any relationship , their initial courtship period goes superb, they find and consider themselves the luckiest and the best couple full of love towards each other.There are a lot of factors responsible for this feeling.Today, we will discuss just three reasons.
Firstly, its quite natural, afterall you are in love.
Secondly,the initial physical attraction and intimacy plays a key role.That's quite natural again.
Thirdly, both the girl and boy are trying to give their best to this particular relationship, the romantic one.
Yes , we try to give our best to this relationship at this point.And we forget that we are forgetting or may be unaware or have not given it a thought that this much focus exclusively to the romantic relationship is not going to last forever.Very soon, everyone realises that they need to give time to their other family members, friends and close ones.Realize, this was a phase , like any other phase in life which has its ups and downs.Problem arises when after initial few months or years, a girl begins to feel insecure and often ignored by her soulmate. The same thing happens with a boy also but I am referring to a girl only because after marriage it is largely a girl who moves to the house of the boy.She gets into a new family and no doubt, has to make more adjustments than the boy and his family.Sometimes , the bride adapts well, sometimes she finds it difficult to adjust and then starts a phase the couple has not ever dreamt about- endless arguments and fights too at times.Whether a boy or a girl, you need to understand one simple aspect of being human and that is you are a social animal.At the same time, every person is related to different persons in a different way.For example , before a man became your husband,for a very long period of time, his identity in terms of relationship was limited to being a grandson, son, may be an elder or younger brother to his sister or brother,being a nephew to his uncles and aunts,a brother-in-law or fire-brigade to close friends.The list is longer than mentioned.So, when you entered his life, you were given extra attention.You deserve all the attention . But what goes wrong at times is the fact that you started looking your man in isolation.Same with him too.But problem in marital or other relationship begin to emerge more when the woman now wants her husband only.She forgets you don't get any person in isolation.He has many important relationships to pay attention to.So, your demand to possess him or try to take him or rather snatch him from others , so that he is completely yours is not just unjustified, but very foolish one.If you are trying to do so, I tell you, you are spoiling your relationship.For love can't be snatched and to make an attempt to do so only shows your lack of understanding or your immaturity or may be at times some sort of blackmailing which will kill all the love and trust in your relationship.You might move into a separate apartment , taking him away from his close ones , but thats not very kind of you, rather unkind.He will never love you the same.Any persons relation to his or her parents comes first.So my simple advice to all youngsters is relations take time to groom.Wait.Do not try to become number one in any person's life forcibly.Only parents love you unconditionally. No other relation can give you that love. Don't try to snatch husbands , do not try to take them away from their family.Understand this simple fact ,he was brought up with his brothers ,sisters and cousins.Every relation has a special place.
Competing in this manner is immaturity and selfishness too.Be it a boy or a girl, respect your spouses Grandparents, Parents, Uncles ,Aunts and all elders; and love all those younger to your spouse.Understand relationships groom over aperiod of time.Don't expect it to happen all of a sudden.
Do not be a home breaker, be a home maker.What you do today will come back to you tomorrow.Respect ,give all your love and care to your grandparents and parents and I guarantee you, their blessing will take your marital relation to a higher level.You will not just be a loving couple anymore, you will be a blessed one.And I guess, thats even better.
You go empty headed from this world ,but yes take as many blessings as you can.Remember ,elders will not be with you physically always, nobody will be, but their blessings will remain with you and give you everything that you ask for.Simply because,if you want something from God, ask through your parents, their prayers work for you more.
Understand relationships and stay happily married forever.
Best
Preeti Rawat
Learning the tools of successful relationships in any relationship workshop too cant help you if you don't try to understand the basics of human behaviour. I am today starting a series on " Basic Understanding of Human Behaviour before you plunge into any relationships.Today is Part -1 of the series which we will be discussing.
Generally, when a boy or a girl enter any relationship , their initial courtship period goes superb, they find and consider themselves the luckiest and the best couple full of love towards each other.There are a lot of factors responsible for this feeling.Today, we will discuss just three reasons.
Firstly, its quite natural, afterall you are in love.
Secondly,the initial physical attraction and intimacy plays a key role.That's quite natural again.
Thirdly, both the girl and boy are trying to give their best to this particular relationship, the romantic one.
Yes , we try to give our best to this relationship at this point.And we forget that we are forgetting or may be unaware or have not given it a thought that this much focus exclusively to the romantic relationship is not going to last forever.Very soon, everyone realises that they need to give time to their other family members, friends and close ones.Realize, this was a phase , like any other phase in life which has its ups and downs.Problem arises when after initial few months or years, a girl begins to feel insecure and often ignored by her soulmate. The same thing happens with a boy also but I am referring to a girl only because after marriage it is largely a girl who moves to the house of the boy.She gets into a new family and no doubt, has to make more adjustments than the boy and his family.Sometimes , the bride adapts well, sometimes she finds it difficult to adjust and then starts a phase the couple has not ever dreamt about- endless arguments and fights too at times.Whether a boy or a girl, you need to understand one simple aspect of being human and that is you are a social animal.At the same time, every person is related to different persons in a different way.For example , before a man became your husband,for a very long period of time, his identity in terms of relationship was limited to being a grandson, son, may be an elder or younger brother to his sister or brother,being a nephew to his uncles and aunts,a brother-in-law or fire-brigade to close friends.The list is longer than mentioned.So, when you entered his life, you were given extra attention.You deserve all the attention . But what goes wrong at times is the fact that you started looking your man in isolation.Same with him too.But problem in marital or other relationship begin to emerge more when the woman now wants her husband only.She forgets you don't get any person in isolation.He has many important relationships to pay attention to.So, your demand to possess him or try to take him or rather snatch him from others , so that he is completely yours is not just unjustified, but very foolish one.If you are trying to do so, I tell you, you are spoiling your relationship.For love can't be snatched and to make an attempt to do so only shows your lack of understanding or your immaturity or may be at times some sort of blackmailing which will kill all the love and trust in your relationship.You might move into a separate apartment , taking him away from his close ones , but thats not very kind of you, rather unkind.He will never love you the same.Any persons relation to his or her parents comes first.So my simple advice to all youngsters is relations take time to groom.Wait.Do not try to become number one in any person's life forcibly.Only parents love you unconditionally. No other relation can give you that love. Don't try to snatch husbands , do not try to take them away from their family.Understand this simple fact ,he was brought up with his brothers ,sisters and cousins.Every relation has a special place.
Competing in this manner is immaturity and selfishness too.Be it a boy or a girl, respect your spouses Grandparents, Parents, Uncles ,Aunts and all elders; and love all those younger to your spouse.Understand relationships groom over aperiod of time.Don't expect it to happen all of a sudden.
Do not be a home breaker, be a home maker.What you do today will come back to you tomorrow.Respect ,give all your love and care to your grandparents and parents and I guarantee you, their blessing will take your marital relation to a higher level.You will not just be a loving couple anymore, you will be a blessed one.And I guess, thats even better.
You go empty headed from this world ,but yes take as many blessings as you can.Remember ,elders will not be with you physically always, nobody will be, but their blessings will remain with you and give you everything that you ask for.Simply because,if you want something from God, ask through your parents, their prayers work for you more.
Understand relationships and stay happily married forever.
Best
Preeti Rawat
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